LET YOUR PAST REST IN PEACE
A friend once had a heart-to-heart talk with me, through out the 45 minutes talk, he was so bitter, full of regrets, pain, and unrealistic wishes of re-living his past to undo his past errors. He lamented on what he ought to have done right and was strategizing on how to avenge the pain he suffered.
Yes! Of a truth, many of us are guilty of the offence of holding on to our past. Sometimes no matter how much we try to avoid it, life hurts us. The nature of being human is to feel, experience life but there is a price to pay, because it comes with the ebb and flow of pleasure and pain. The pain we experience in life can come in many forms. However, it is not the actual pain that ends up hurting us but rather it is our insistence on holding on to that pain, but in truth we are hurting ourselves in this process. THE PAST IS DEAD
●●●What we must do now is to KISS😘OUR PAST GOODBYE, THE PAST IS DEAD, PLEASE LET IT REST IN PEACE.
●●●The QUESTION to ask now is how can we move on, after life hurts us and gets us down???
■ ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE HURT
This may seem obvious but in fact most people avoid pain at all costs. If you can truly embrace your pain and accept that it exists, only then do you have the opportunity to let it go.
■ RELEASE YOUR FEELINGS
This part is another step of moving on from pain that we tend to avoid. As if accepting the pain isn’t enough, now I have to feel it?! YUCK.
Feeling where you are at and letting it out either to a counsellor or even a friend is a very healthy and necessary part of healing your wounds. If you aren’t much of a talker, you can release your feelings into exercise or even art. There is no right way, only your way. The important part is that you do it.
■ LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT
Nothing from the past has the power to hurt you unless you choose to let it. If you have a hard time being present in your life, try starting a mindfulness exercise or even take interest in your best activities, eat your favourite meals, interact with positive minds, this brings the breath back to the body and the breath is the anchor to presence.
■ FORGIVE BUT KEEP THE LESSONS
Another reason we hold onto our past is that we convince ourselves that if we move on then we will forget about hat happened and make the same mistake again. Decide now to trust that you won’t. Make a note somewhere safe like a journal, and record the lesson or lessons that have come from your painful experience. Then close the book and move on with your life.
🗣 Life is too short to hold on to past hurt. None of us know when our time is up and there is so much beauty in the world that will be missed if you keep living in the past, stop the self pity, stay positive, optimize your potentials.
●N.B:Watch out for this space, for healthy nudgets to motivate you in achieving your dreams and optimizing your potentials🤗✌🤗